Lets talk about middle school.
What one word comes to your mind to describe your pre-teen years? Wanna know mine? HORRIBLE.
Just the thought of it puts my stomach in knots. But I’m ready to release my fear of pre-teens (which I still have today), my ugly memories and the false definition of who I am from my “friends” during those years.
Disclaimer: This is not a boo hoo, woah poor me post. This is a post on liberation and freedom.
Now back to middle school.
Many of my friends and my family know that I label middle school as the worst years of my life, and I am so glad I got them over with. I think many young girls go through something similar to what I went through. And it sucks. It really sucked. And it still sucks to think about.
But the good news is there is freedom and you’ll be happy (as crazy as that may sound) you went through those years of bullying, not being cool and false friendships at a young age. Because, hang on sweetheart, please don’t give up, don’t give in, because there is light at the end of the tunnel. “For I am with you, and no one is going to attack and harm you…” – Acts 18:10
Here’s some encouragement and tests that make up my testimony of freedom:
1) Middle school and high school will NOT be the best years of your life. Yes, you will love Friday nights and hanging with your crew at lunch but there is nothing like living for no one other than God. You don’t have to impress Him with the latest fashions. He won’t write on your 8-10 page research paper FAIL in red sharpie. Nor will He whisper sweet nothings in your ear to make you do things that you don’t want to do but feel like you have to do. God is not interested in fades. He’s interested in your heart. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” -Romans 12:2
2) Boy bands will NOT be cool forever. I vividly remember standing in the “Quad” in middle school with my 5 “friends” who I thought were the coolest chicks on campus and I wanted so badly to be like them. So when one of them said, “Look Raquel, when N’SYNC gets 6 members, we’ll get 6 members, BUT until then you can be our DOG!” And to think I was so desperate to be like them I almost agreed to be their dog. HECK NO. I am not a dog nor will I ever allow myself to be treated like one and neither should you! “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
3) Be a smart girl NOT a cool girl. In middle school I was in advanced academic classes and I was a cheerleader. This was not cool, because I didn’t belong to just one group, at lunch I couldn’t hang with the cheerleaders because we didn’t write notes back in front in classes nor could I hang with the smarties because I didn’t participate in after school activities because of cheer practice. So, I was labeled an outcast. When you get older, your future employer will not ask (and I guarantee this) if you were cool in school, or if you were most popular. They don’t care, and no one outside of your school campus does either. Focus on your education and be known for your intelligence and wisdom. “And those who are wise shall shine like the brightness of the sky above; and those who turn many to righteousness, like the stars forever and ever.” Daniel 12:3
Right now, you may not understand why you are being ridiculed or outcasted, and I’m not saying it is easy to go through this and to see the good in it all. BUT I promise the best days are yet to come.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -John 16:3