How to Say No, When Your Yes Means Less

“Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is worth the less.” – Louie Giglio

 

I’m a YES kind of girl. When an opportunity arises I never hesitate to commit. I like to stay busy, and the thought of not having something to strive for or work towards freaks me out a little. I can manipulate my mind and heart to love and like just about anything – or even dislike.

Our minds are powerful. Say for instance, I got offered the most amazing career at 9 months pregnant, doing sales (oh how I hate sales) – say the pay was extremely well, the hours horrendous and the start date was just two weeks after giving birth.

It almost sounds perfect – almost. “Dual income”, “Security”, “I’ve always LOVED sales (not)” etc, etc. But what it really translates to is “Less time with my newborn and husband” and “Less of me for them”. The most important job to me right now, is being MOM and it has been my desire to be home with my newborn while bringing in an income, at home. Not only is it my desire its my husband’s too. So in the above almost perfect scenario, you can now see why it’s not for me. Decision made.

Here are 3 sure-fire ways to make sure your YES is worth the LESS:

1) Know your convictions and be grounded in them.

A conviction is a firmly held belief; it can not be shaken or manipulated. Everyone has different convictions. One of mine is that: God Always Provides. This can never ever be talked out of me. In my heart I KNOW He does, because He has on more than one occasion in my life. I’ve witnessed His “security”. Another one of my convictions is: Family Before Everything. I need my family, I live for them and nothing can convince me that living for something else is better.

2) Write out the pros and cons of saying YES and saying NO.

When making a big decision, don’t be rash. Weigh both sides. Check the facts and then act.

3) Ask yourself, “What will I be giving LESS to?”

Soooo important. And it goes back to question #1 – convictions.

Oh, and one more thing that has been my motto lately, “Hold out for God’s best, don’t settle for the rest” – Because He loves you and wants to bless you, abundantly!

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalms 37:4

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19

Xo,

Raquel

 

 

 

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